Monday, April 11, 2016

Being Myself Being Yourself

2nd Home
There is a reason why my circle is so small. It is because I value unconditional acceptance and kindred spirits. This is one of the few places I am fully myself. It is a bar in Will county. I used to be good at pool. Not so much anymore. But I enjoy playing. I like burgers. I love them actually. I also have an unhealthy fascination with french fries. I like Star Wars. I think in music and pop culture references. I am kinda flighty and a bit of a dork sometimes. I am a hot head and I do not let go of mistakes I have made easily. I need time to process. I am a hopeless romantic. Though I know there is always room for improvement, I like who I am. For the first time in my life, I like who I am and it took a long time to get there.

I like who my friends and dear ones are. They respect me and accept me as I am and I do them. They have earned the right to give me criticism when they think I am going in a bad road and they have earned this right through love and acceptance.

They have seen me at my worst and loved it, not rolled their eyes at it with secretly contained contempt over it. They may not have always approved of my behavior, but they loved the core of me and know me well enough to know that I need to process things on my terms. 

I say all this not as a battle cry, but as gratitude for my friends who accept my messed up honest self. 

I say all this because I love the ability to be myself no matter who that is. I also love watching my friends flourish and grow.

We all need those spaces where we can be ourselves no matter how good we can shoot pool or hold liquor or dance. We need those places where we can be ourselves and allow others the same privilege. 

We are going to encounter people and spaces that do not accept us as we are. Those are hard and those are more often the rule and the places to be myself and for you to be yourself are precious and rare. 

When you find them. Hang on to them. The people, the places and the moments. They are a scarce commodity and a precious gift. As you decide to call people friends or lovers or any other such thing....it is more than okay to demand full acceptance and permission to be autonomous. It is what we all deserve. 

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